4 Ways To Cultivate Self-Love

If you want more love in your life, you have to become Love.

You achieve this by developing self-love. What would you make you love yourself more? If you looked more attractive?  If you were rich? If you were taller, shorter? Stronger, smarter, popular?

People often get stuck in a cycle of always wanting something more. One person wishes they had straighter hair, another wished they had waves or curls. One wants to be taller, another wants to be shorter. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. 

What is it that really makes a person lovable? Their heart, their soul, and their mind. Those things mean far more than most people will ever know. Those things are the true essence of beauty. The beauty of the heart and soul is the only kind that lasts forever.

What are ways to show you love yourself? Here are four ways you can start cultivating self-love:

  1. Write a list of ten things you love about yourself. Ten things. It can be as simple as the color of your eyes to something deeper such as your compassionate, caring heart. The goal is to train yourself to find the positives or things that are lovely about yourself. And when I say ‘find’ I’m not saying it’s something that is hard. Your perception is what makes it seem like a hard task, but really isn’t. The stars shine whether anyone acknowledges it or not. The same goes for the things that make you special. I’m sure you can find lots of things that are good about yourself, about others, about things.
  2.  Replace all the negative words you (or others) use to describe or associate with you, with positive ones. Stop criticizing yourself for your flaws, imperfections, and shortcomings. Instead, praise and cherish your good traits and attributes. You have the choice of doing either one, to criticize or to cherish. To sink into deeper depression and self-hate, or deeper appreciation and self-love. How can anyone expect you to love them when you don’t even have that love for yourself?
  3. Take better care of your health. Good mothers-to-be try to make sure they eat right and healthy for their babies because they care about the health of their new child. We should all take that same approach, that same caring and aim it towards ourselves. You deserve to be happy and healthy, you deserve to enjoy a healthier lifestyle that shows you value your own self-worth.
  4.  Give yourself the gift of Acceptance. Accept where you are right here in this moment. Take gratitude in all that you’ve been through and overcome, and all that you are. Realize how it’s a miracle you exist and that this journey is one to be enjoyed.  Be patient with yourself.

Friendship and true love starts at home, and it starts with you. Once you feel content with your own friendship and unconditional love, you will begin to realize you’ve already found a golden friendship and true love. They say that the best relationship you can have is with yourself. Next to that is your relationship with the people in your inner circle. That same unconditional love you’ve nurtured towards yourself is now available for others.

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay Inspired!


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How To Break Old Patterns

Everything is about patterns. Life is a series of patterns. We are all repeating ourselves, our patterns, our archetypes, life after life. We are all characters  on a stage we call Life.

I  know what it means to be afraid of a same old pattern repeating itself, always ending with the same unsatisfying result. I’ve been there. Especially with friendships, I’d be afraid of making new friends because I thought somehow I would end up losing them. And guess what? That’s exactly what would happen. There was always something, they moved away, our parents didn’t get along with theirs, I wasn’t ‘cool’ enough, we didn’t have much in common so we grew apart, etc…so what I feared the most is what would happen.

I had developed this belief that I wasn’t worthy of friends. That somehow I was just doomed to a fate without true friends. But eventually I realized that it’s not the circumstances that cause the same pattern to repeat itself, we are the same pattern that keeps repeating itself. We carry these beliefs in our pockets, so-to-speak, everywhere we go.  And those beliefs end up becoming our reality. The beliefs start to manifest and become real-like, because we have allowed ourselves to think that their real. We’ve given our will to this false belief.

It’s like the new situations in life are the stage props and new people are the new characters. They are the only things that are different, and yet we as the main characters in our story haven’t changed (because we carry these old beliefs in our pockets). And so the story or situation will end just like the previous one did. Because the main character made a choice (consciously or subconsciously) that they will stay the same, and therefore the story must end the same way. The old pattern repeats itself.

But we can choose to create a new pattern, become that new pattern, and the story shall follow suit.

How do we do this:

1) Setting the Intention: By setting your will to do something different, something that you haven’t done before.

2) Taking Action: Actions define who you are. You are what you do.

Here is an example: say someone wishes to quit smoking.

First, they have to set their intention and declare to themselves they are consciously making the decision to quit smoking, once and for all.

Second, they need to visualize themselves actually doing the action of quitting. They have to realize that they will need to throw away all the cigarettes. And every time that they go out to the store, or whatever, they’ll need to avoid them. When someone offers them one, they’ll have to decline.

Third, make all of this a reality. Walk this out. Do your best to combine your Intention to quit smoking with the Action of avoiding the opportunity to smoke.

Now that third one might be easier said than done. It’s because the person has become accustomed to smoking, it might be a nervous habit, something that they do to calm down their nerves. Something to distract them from all the stress in their life. So we need something else to fill in the void.

Fourth, find a better solution. Breathing techniques can help this person relieve their stress. Meditation, yoga, peaceful music, even herbal tea could help relieve anxiety. White ginseng is another good substitute. You can do your own research.

The only thing that could determine whether or not the story ends the same way, is you. You would say that you are a different person now, then you were six months ago, right? By now, you carry some new beliefs in your pockets than the half a year ago you did. When you go to the same places, things are a bit different. In similar situations you’ve had before, you might now make a different choice instead of the one you used to make, and so the result becomes different than last time.

Things can be different if you are different.  Intentions and Actions are the only things that can determine your life’s pattern. If your intention is to not repeat your old patterns or somebody else’s, you have to take action of doing something different that makes you different. You have to do something that sets you apart, that makes you truly an individual. Introducing something new, something that’s better, you are creating a life with better results.

“When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.”

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay inspired!


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Chakras & How To Unblock Them: Part Two

chakra colours

The Heart Chakra is the fourth chakra and it deals with unconditional love in its purest form and connection. The color of this chakra is primarily green but is said to be pink when it’s in the highest form. The element is Air.  

This chakra acts as the bridge between the lower, more physical chakras (root, sacral, and solar plexus), and the higher, more spiritual chakras (throat, third eye, and crown). It is the link between matter and spirit, between heaven and earth. Although all chakras are equally important and the state of each one contributes to one’s well-being and all aspects of life—if there is one chakra that we need to have balanced—it is this chakra. 

If humanity focused on balancing this chakra, there would be no more wars, no more division/separation, no hate, etc…

Also, it’s important to have your heart pure for the afterlife. I’ll elaborate more on this in another post. 

When this chakra is balanced, the person is able to express their love and give their love away—without any conditions or expectations. They realize that their hearts are connected to the hearts of others and that what they do to others,  they also do to themselves. They feel a deep connection to nature and animals.

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person may suffer from feelings of loneliness, isolation, and feel like they’re unloved. They may be afraid of loving someone out of fear of getting hurt, or that they’ll grow too attached. The other spectrum of this unbalanced chakra is when the person is cold-hearted and cruel, they may play with others’ hearts, they may harm others,  animals, and/or planet Earth intentionally, making this chakra shut down.

Ways to unblock this Chakra:

1) Color Therapy (visualizing green, wearing green clothing, etc…)

2) Eating green leafy foods and more organic.

3) Become Love. Give yourself some love. Having self-love that is unconditional is important and must be established first, only then you’ll be able to give love that is unconditional for others. Share your love with others, with animals, with the world, in however way that you share and express your love. It’s good to count your blessings and give gratitude for what you do have. Even appreciating the simple things in life, like being grateful that trees exist or flowers or that you have family and friends.

4) Connecting with nature and animals

5) Affirmations

6) Yoga

chakra colors

The Throat chakra is the fifth chakra and it deals with communication, creativity, and spirit. The color of this chakra is blue. The element is ether.

This chakra is one of the three spiritual chakras.

When this chakra is balanced, the person is able to easily communicate effectively. They have no problem speaking their truth and expressing themselves. Because this chakra is balanced, they are able to let others speak their truth as well, and they will truly listen. They don’t feel the need to control the other person, they can let others just be. They are a good listener,  they might hear the whispers of the divine,  thus communicating with and receiving messages from the Divine/Universe. People with a balanced throat chakra may express themselves creatively through writing, speech, or art.

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person may suffer from not being able to communicate effectively, they are unable to express themselves fully,  either out of fear of rejection or criticism from speaking their honest feelings and opinions. So this person may often try to hide their true feelings and even lie, thus distancing themselves from their higher, authentic selves. The person can either be extremely untalkative and quiet, or really loud and obnoxious, never letting others have their say or opinion, being a bad listener and controlling.

Ways to unblock this chakra:

1) Color therapy (visualizing blue, wearing blue clothing, etc…)

2) Creatively expressing yourself, be it art, writing, or speech.

3) Communicating with others and practicing your listening skills.

4) Realizing what your truth is, believing in your truth, and walking in your truth. Always be authentic and true to yourself.  Being in truth and being real with yourself truly sets you free.

5) Affirmations

6) Yoga

chakra colors

The Third Eye chakra is the sixth chakra and it deals with intuition, the imagination, and spiritual awareness. The color of this chakra is indigo-blue, and the element is Light.

When this chakra is balanced, the person is in tune with their intuition and have no problem following it whenever they feel the need to. This person is also open to new spiritual concepts and ideas. They have clear spiritual vision. They know that everything they experience is the product of their own projected thoughts and emotions. They know that what they see is what they created, and they have the power to use their imagination to create whatever they want for themselves. This chakra also deals with psychic abilities such as clairvoyance, clairaudience, able to see auras, able to see spirits and entities, experience premonitions, etc… Dreaming is also associated with this chakra.

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person falls out of touch with their intuition and becomes spiritually blind. They become close-minded and are not opened to new ideas or spiritual concepts. The person may not be able to make wise decisions and they fall out of alignment with their true soul purpose in life. They might believe in the saying “What you can’t see or touch is not real” and over-intellectualize life,  this is when the person becomes Egotistical. This person might experience difficulties with sleep and rarely remembers their dreams.

Way to unblock this chakra:

1) Color Therapy (visualizing Indigo, wearing Indigo or dark blue, eating purple/indigo-blue foods such as blueberries, etc..)

2) Trusting yourself and your intuition. Believe in yourself, if you have a strong feeling about something, you should trust it. The more you start to trust in yourself,  the more your intuition and ability to make wise decisions grow stronger and stronger.

3) Meditation. Sitting in silence and stilling your mind. Calming down the overthinking mind, and just being in the moment. Listening to your inner voice or the whispers of the Universe. You don’t have to do a whole lot of hours of meditation, just a few minutes a day is great and can work wonders. Some people believe  they don’t have time for meditation, but really they always have time. Everyone has 24 hours in a day, it’s just that they prioritize other things. Jbittersweet has some good, short videos of meditations that I highly recommend.

4) Crystals

5) Aromatherapy

6) Yoga

chakra color

The Crown Chakra is the seventh chakra and it connects you to the Divine and to your Higher-self. This chakra  deals with Spiritual Enlightenment and Connectedness to All Things. The keywords for this chakra is I KNOW and I UNDERSTAND. The color of this chakra is violet, but in the most elevated form the color is white. The element is Cosmic energy.

When this chakra is balanced, the person experiences divine spiritual experiences, they have a strong connection with their Higher selves and the Divine. They work with and trust in the Universe. This person vibrates on a higher frequency and has reached higher consciousness. This person can see things objectively and see lower situations from their higher selves’ perspective. The person knows the distinctions between their true selves and their false sense of self (or bad Ego).

When this chakra is unbalanced or even shut down (as is the common case with most people, unfortunately), they are cut off from the Source (G-d) and their higher-selves. They are spiritually asleep and running on autopilot. They don’t believe there’s anything more to life, no deeper meaning into anything. They will go through life not knowing or remembering what their true soul purpose was in their lifetime. They may fall victim to the bad ways of living in this society and are under Mind Control. They don’t realize that they can have Soul Control that can override bad Mind Control. They make their lives harder than it has to be by working against the Universe and not listening to the advice of their higher selves. They believe that they are separate from everyone and everything and cannot comprehend that they are connected to everything and are a part of the bigger whole.

Way to unblock this chakras:

1 ) Color Therapy (visualizing violet, white, or gold, wearing any of those three colors, etc..

2 )  Trusting in the Divine and the Universe; Asking for guidance from the Divine or your spirit guides, whenever you’re in need of answers/help, trusting that everything works out and is well in your world, believing that everything happens for a reason and that there are no accidents, there is always something good in every situation you just have to look for it)

3 ) Spiritual activity such as prayer or meditation.

4) Meditation and this is extremely important for this chakra and the Third Eye chakra.

5 ) Crystals

6) Aromatherapy

Remember that the chakras are energy vortexes within the energetic body. They are sensitive to the environment. Your thoughts, feelings,  beliefs, and experiences affect them in a fundamental way. So it’s good to avoid anything negative that might lower the frequency of your chakras, thus causing them to spin a slower rate and lower frequency.

This has been part two of Chakras & How To Unblock Them. I hope that this helps with inspiring ideas for chakra balancing. 

Much Love and Light, As Always


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Chakras & How to Unblock Them: Part One

The first step in knowing how to unblock the chakras is to know what chakras are exactly and to identify which chakra(s) may be blocked, so you can directly target that particular one(s). There are many ways and techniques that people use to unblock, cleanse, and balance their chakras. 

So what are chakras?

Chakras are the Sanskrit word for ‘wheel,’ and these wheels or energy vortices are within the energetic body. They are connected to every aspect of our lives, emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual. There are seven primary chakras, and even though there are hundreds of minor chakras, these seven are most known and focused upon for healing and balancing. By balancing your chakras, you balance your mind, body, and spirit thus balancing your life!

Here is a brief description of each chakra,  so you’ll be able to see how they all relate to one another and are interconnected.

colors of chakra

The Root Chakra is the first chakra and is the base foundation of the chakra system. The color of this chakra is red and the element is earth.

When the Root Chakra is balanced, the person feels safe,  secure and stable. They are grounded and connected to Mother Earth, (the element of this chakra is Earth). The person is secure in who they are and of their identity. They know that they are always provided for by the universe and that they never go without. They are grateful for what they do have.

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person suffers from feeling unsafe and unstable. They feel like the world is not a safe place and they’re always carrying around this fear and anxiety. Their head is always in the clouds and tend to be a bit spacey, they might feel like they aren’t anchored to anything. They may also suffer from health problems.

Ways to unblock and cleanse this Chakra:

1) Color Therapy (visualizing red, wearing red clothing, etc…) 

2) Exercise and healthy eating;

Exercising is good for overall health, but it really helps to move the energy that’s within the body and help it flow more naturally and become un-stagnate. Exercises having to do with the legs is especially beneficial for this root chakra, it emphasizes grounding the energy. After exercising, you’ll feel invigorated and the chi will have circulated all throughout your body, flowing naturally as it should. Plus it will boost your self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself. Remember, once you start and get moving, it’s harder to just stop. 

3) Nature walks

4) Grounding; Taking your shoes off and standing on the grass barefooted, feeling yourself connecting with Mother Earth

5) Affirmations

6) Yoga; There are specific yoga poses for each chakra that are meant to help move the energy or ‘chi’ within the chakras so the energy can flow more naturally.

colours of chakra

The Sacral chakra is the second chakra and it deals with emotions, sexuality, and creativity. The color of this chakra is orange and the element is water. 

When this chakra is balanced, the person accepts and honors their emotions/feelings and are able to express them more freely. They are in touch with their uniqueness and are more accepting of themselves as they are. They have a healthy relationship with their sexuality and healthy boundaries, They are very creative and they live life with passion and feel more joyous. 

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person suffers from being out of touch of their emotions, may actually believe that their emotions are messy things and thus try to repress them for as long as they can. They have creative blocks and may have unhealthy boundaries and relationships. They might not care as much for their physical bodies, thus suffering from unhealthy things like emotional eating, substance abuse, other harmful things for the body, etc…

Ways to unblock and cleanse this Chakra:

1) Color therapy (visualizing orange, wearing orange clothing, etc…)

2) Exercise and healthy eating;

It’s always good to nourish the body, and by nourishing the body you begin nourishing your soul. Eating orange foods can be stimulating to the sacral chakra, drinking water or other beverages are good for this water element chakra)

3) Express Yourself; Dancing, or whatever form of creativity you like doing, as long as you’re expressing yourself creatively and having fun.

4) Letting go; Expressing your emotions, letting go of all the negative emotions that were holding you down, letting go of any guilt you might’ve felt and finally forgive yourself, of course doing all of these things in a healthy way.

5) Affirmations

6) Yoga

chakra colours

The Solar Plexus is the third chakra and it deals with willpower and self-esteem. The color of this chakra is yellow and the element is fire.

When this chakra is balanced, the person loves and accepts themselves as they are and they are confident in their own skin. They have a healthy self-esteem. The person is in touch with their inner power and is able to tackle whatever life throws at them. They can set goals and they believe they can achieve them. They also accept others as they are (which then leads up to the Heart Chakra having the unconditional love for the self and for others).

When this chakra is unbalanced, the person will suffer from either too low a self-esteem or too high a self-esteem. They will be unaccepting of themselves, always placing high demands on oneself which means they’ll also feel this way towards others. They might believe that they are powerless and cannot do what they set their minds to achieve.

Ways to unblock and cleanse this Chakra:

1) Color Therapy (visualizing yellow, wearing yellow clothing, etc…)

2) Exercising and healthy eating (yellow foods like bananas, sunflower seeds, cheese, etc…)

3) Setting Goals; Set realistic, small goals and working towards achieving those goals. When you achieve them, you’ll feel really proud of yourself and more in control of your life. If at first, the goals seem daunting, then break them down into smaller steps and when you do accomplish them, celebrate how powerful and effective you are!

4) Going outside and Sunbathing; Sunshine is really good for the solar plexus (its element being fire and all), and it’s an instant mood improver. 🙂 Just don’t forget sunscreen!

5) Affirmations

6) Yoga

This has been part one of Chakras & How to Unblock them. Stay tuned for Part two. 

You may leave comments below if you have any questions or have any thoughts you’d like to share on this!

Much Love and Light, As Always


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