4 Ways To Cultivate Self-Love

If you want more love in your life, you have to become Love.

You achieve this by developing self-love. What would you make you love yourself more? If you looked more attractive?  If you were rich? If you were taller, shorter? Stronger, smarter, popular?

People often get stuck in a cycle of always wanting something more. One person wishes they had straighter hair, another wished they had waves or curls. One wants to be taller, another wants to be shorter. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. 

What is it that really makes a person lovable? Their heart, their soul, and their mind. Those things mean far more than most people will ever know. Those things are the true essence of beauty. The beauty of the heart and soul is the only kind that lasts forever.

What are ways to show you love yourself? Here are four ways you can start cultivating self-love:

  1. Write a list of ten things you love about yourself. Ten things. It can be as simple as the color of your eyes to something deeper such as your compassionate, caring heart. The goal is to train yourself to find the positives or things that are lovely about yourself. And when I say ‘find’ I’m not saying it’s something that is hard. Your perception is what makes it seem like a hard task, but really isn’t. The stars shine whether anyone acknowledges it or not. The same goes for the things that make you special. I’m sure you can find lots of things that are good about yourself, about others, about things.
  2.  Replace all the negative words you (or others) use to describe or associate with you, with positive ones. Stop criticizing yourself for your flaws, imperfections, and shortcomings. Instead, praise and cherish your good traits and attributes. You have the choice of doing either one, to criticize or to cherish. To sink into deeper depression and self-hate, or deeper appreciation and self-love. How can anyone expect you to love them when you don’t even have that love for yourself?
  3. Take better care of your health. Good mothers-to-be try to make sure they eat right and healthy for their babies because they care about the health of their new child. We should all take that same approach, that same caring and aim it towards ourselves. You deserve to be happy and healthy, you deserve to enjoy a healthier lifestyle that shows you value your own self-worth.
  4.  Give yourself the gift of Acceptance. Accept where you are right here in this moment. Take gratitude in all that you’ve been through and overcome, and all that you are. Realize how it’s a miracle you exist and that this journey is one to be enjoyed.  Be patient with yourself.

Friendship and true love starts at home, and it starts with you. Once you feel content with your own friendship and unconditional love, you will begin to realize you’ve already found a golden friendship and true love. They say that the best relationship you can have is with yourself. Next to that is your relationship with the people in your inner circle. That same unconditional love you’ve nurtured towards yourself is now available for others.

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay Inspired!

-Tiffany

Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl, © 2016. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this written material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

All images not noted with my name, are courtesy of Pexels, they are not owned or sold, and are shared freely.

Advertisements

Why You Should Believe In Your Dreams

Why should you believe in your dreams?

Because everything we have now was once a dream, a vision, something that came from the realm of possibility. Everything you see around you was once an idea, a product from somebody’s imagination. And through belief, and unwavering perseverance they brought it into this physical realm. Manifested it into their reality. 

This ability is inside of all of us. Most people don’t know that they truly have the power to change their own lives, to make their dreams a reality. And it’s all because they didn’t allow themselves to believe. Faith is not everything, but it’s hope that keeps us going and drives us on when the times get tough. Giving up is the quickest way to failure. There’s no other way around it. People who give up on their dreams, give away their chances of ever succeeding in making them a reality. Sometimes Failure comes first before Success shows up. That doesn’t mean you should throw in the towel at the first fail.

If you think about it, there are infinite universes with endless possibilities that can become different realities in parallel universes. I know that’s a mouthful, but it’s true. Scientists are discovering these other universes and dimensions (CERN). There are multi-universes and in these universes, whatever possibility that could happen has already happened or is happening. That possibility is true.  So imagine, you are already living this dream of yours in one of these universes. You have to be, because it’s possible, right? Perhaps that’s one of the reasons why you have this strong desire to make this dream a reality! Because an aspect of your consciousness is aware of that reality already existing, and your heart wishes to merge with this reality. Consciousness is not bound by time and space. Burt Goldman is the founder of Quantum Jumping, he has mastered the ability to jump into parallel universes and meet his alternate selves. He’s now a successful author, artist, musician, and photographer. And he’s only 89! He believed he could be anything he wanted, and when he saw himself living out one of his dreams, he knew it was possible for him too.

Somebody (a version of you) has to live out this possibility, right? If this dream is something you can’t imagine not doing or pursuing, if this is something you can’t imagine living life without or doing anything other than this, then it may be meant for this you to live out this dream.

This dream could be your soul’s calling. This version of you, right now, will live this life as *insert your name* only once. Sure, your soul never dies. Just like energy can never be destroyed or created, and we are made up of energy. But still, this current identity you have will only be once. The many versions of you throughout the universes will only be once. Out of all of you, don’t you want to be the one who lives their life full of meaning? That does what you once thought impossible? You can do it. The fact that you even have this vision of being *insert whatever* and not something else, means that you know deep down it’s possible. You are just afraid. It’s your Ego’s false sense of self that makes you think you can’t do something but the real you is Capable. 

In the next post, I will write about why Ego tries to get in the way of you and your dreams. 

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay Inspired!

~Tiffany

All images not noted with my name, are courtesy of Pexels, they are not owned or sold, and are shared freely. 

Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl, © 2016. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this written material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Lucid Dream 1#

Today I’m going to do something a little different. I’m going to write about a lucid dream I had a few months ago. I think it was on the verge of an OBE.

June 3, 2016

I am in my kitchen. The lights are off, but it’s daytime. I can see the morning light flitting out through the little window. I walk over to the kitchen table and I see there’s a box of tissues. I start to grab two tissues as if this is routine when suddenly I feel an awareness wash over me and I realize ‘wait, this is a dream. Since I’m lucid dreaming , I should grab a third tissue, just to show myself I am aware.’ So I grab a third tissue.

I walk over to our dining room and stare out this huge window. Even though i didn’t touch the curtains or move the blinds away, somehow I can still see outside my backyard. The sun is shining incredibly bright, so bright that I don’t stare at it directly and instead take notice of the ground. The vivid, lush green of the grass,  the spring-green of the leaves on the trees swaying back and forth from a gentle breeze. This beautiful scene puts a smile on my face. Everything looks bright and peaceful, it makes me feel hope. Then I remembered I was lucid dreaming, and was gonna try and change the landscape. 

So I thought to myself “Where would I want to go?” and my mind races. Paris comes to my mind (in real life I’ve always wanted to visit that place) so I closed my dream eyes (and everything went dark as if I really closed my eyes!) and tried to concentrate on that place.  I close my eyes for a split second, truly believing something is going to happen…

When suddenly I feel my dream body ascending. I open my dream eyes and see I am floating. Hovering just above the floor.  I feel so excited that I forgot to stay focused and I floated towards the window. I tried flying higher but I start leaning forward.  Leaning, leaning until my dream-body flows right through the window as if I’m a spirit not bound by physics. I’m falling.  My dream body tumbles over and over until I land on the ground on my back. One of the sensations I feel isn’t pain but icy coldness. The location hasn’t changed but the grass looks different. I look at the ground and notice patches of snow everywhere, where there wasn’t before. After the fall, I started losing my awareness. I felt my control over myself and the dream was weakening. Suddenly a man appears behind me. I think he sort of tackled me to the ground. Maybe I tackled him first. I remember the faint sensation of cold ice on my hands and shoulders. The man is smiling and so am I. I got him pinned down with my hands on his wrists.  I remember asking him a question and he gave me an answer. He flips us over, with me pinned down and asks me a question. Which I give an answer to. Then he gets up, holds out his hand to help me up. I grab it and stand up. We start running, at incredible speeds, everything literally looking like its zooming by too fast. Weird music starts playing in the background. I remember him saying words over and over again. But my mind is clear which sentence it was.

Nobody’s going to find you, or I’m going to find you

But anyway, when I woke up from the dream, I felt so happy for some reason. Before the dream, I had been feeling pretty low. I think I heard from somewhere that when one has experienced an OBE, it affects their vibration, raising it higher. The best thing about this dream was that weird sensation of floating, feeling weightless, and that aspiration to fly higher and soar and do whatever I wish, travel to anywhere I wish. The scene with the sunlight and the grass and trees, it made me feel like nothing was impossible. Like there was a bright future and things are worth hoping for. 

I’ve yet to experience something like a real OBE, but after having that dream it makes me feel like it’s all the more possible. 

Maybe I’ll start writing more about my dreams on here. 

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay Inspired!

~Tiffany

All images not noted with my name, are courtesy of Pixabay, they are not owned or sold, and are shared freely. 

Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl, © 2016.

How To Break Old Patterns

Everything is about patterns. Life is a series of patterns. We are all repeating ourselves, our patterns, our archetypes, life after life. We are all characters  on a stage we call Life.

I  know what it means to be afraid of a same old pattern repeating itself, always ending with the same unsatisfying result. I’ve been there. Especially with friendships, I’d be afraid of making new friends because I thought somehow I would end up losing them. And guess what? That’s exactly what would happen. There was always something, they moved away, our parents didn’t get along with theirs, I wasn’t ‘cool’ enough, we didn’t have much in common so we grew apart, etc…so what I feared the most is what would happen.

I had developed this belief that I wasn’t worthy of friends. That somehow I was just doomed to a fate without true friends. But eventually I realized that it’s not the circumstances that cause the same pattern to repeat itself, we are the same pattern that keeps repeating itself. We carry these beliefs in our pockets, so-to-speak, everywhere we go.  And those beliefs end up becoming our reality. The beliefs start to manifest and become real-like, because we have allowed ourselves to think that their real. We’ve given our will to this false belief.

It’s like the new situations in life are the stage props and new people are the new characters. They are the only things that are different, and yet we as the main characters in our story haven’t changed (because we carry these old beliefs in our pockets). And so the story or situation will end just like the previous one did. Because the main character made a choice (consciously or subconsciously) that they will stay the same, and therefore the story must end the same way. The old pattern repeats itself.

But we can choose to create a new pattern, become that new pattern, and the story shall follow suit.

How do we do this:

1) Setting the Intention: By setting your will to do something different, something that you haven’t done before.

2) Taking Action: Actions define who you are. You are what you do.

Here is an example: say someone wishes to quit smoking.

First, they have to set their intention and declare to themselves they are consciously making the decision to quit smoking, once and for all.

Second, they need to visualize themselves actually doing the action of quitting. They have to realize that they will need to throw away all the cigarettes. And every time that they go out to the store, or whatever, they’ll need to avoid them. When someone offers them one, they’ll have to decline.

Third, make all of this a reality. Walk this out. Do your best to combine your Intention to quit smoking with the Action of avoiding the opportunity to smoke.

Now that third one might be easier said than done. It’s because the person has become accustomed to smoking, it might be a nervous habit, something that they do to calm down their nerves. Something to distract them from all the stress in their life. So we need something else to fill in the void.

Fourth, find a better solution. Breathing techniques can help this person relieve their stress. Meditation, yoga, peaceful music, even herbal tea could help relieve anxiety. White ginseng is another good substitute. You can do your own research.

The only thing that could determine whether or not the story ends the same way, is you. You would say that you are a different person now, then you were six months ago, right? By now, you carry some new beliefs in your pockets than the half a year ago you did. When you go to the same places, things are a bit different. In similar situations you’ve had before, you might now make a different choice instead of the one you used to make, and so the result becomes different than last time.

Things can be different if you are different.  Intentions and Actions are the only things that can determine your life’s pattern. If your intention is to not repeat your old patterns or somebody else’s, you have to take action of doing something different that makes you different. You have to do something that sets you apart, that makes you truly an individual. Introducing something new, something that’s better, you are creating a life with better results.

“When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.”

Much Love & Light, As Always

Stay inspired!

~Tiffany 

All images not noted with my name, are courtesy of Pexels, they are not owned or sold, and are shared freely. 

Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl, © 2016. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this written material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

The Art of True Transformation

True Transformation is Dying.

A metaphysical death, a spiritual death, an Ego death. A lot of people call it the Dark Night of the Soul. Some call it being born anew. Going through being stripped of everything you thought you were, all of the beliefs you believed to be true. You don’t see yourself the same anymore. You don’t see people the same anymore. Heck, maybe you didn’t even notice the people around you BEFORE all of this happened to you, and now that you’ve been Awakened, you truly SEE the people around you for the first time in your life. You see the whole world with fresh new eyes.

As our old selves die, a new version of ourselves emerges and therefore we are reborn. One of the terms for this is Ego Death. Transformation is killing old aspects of ourselves that no longer served us in a positive way, so we can continue to evolve and grow as souls.

To remember our true selves, we’d have to forget our old false sense of self.

I will tell you a little story. When I was younger, I used to dream a lot about snakes. At the time I was going through a lot of emotional times.  I used to fight and argue a lot with my siblings and parents, I often felt misunderstood by everyone. I was losing sleep due to phobias and worst case scenarios. My mind couldn’t shut off with excessive thoughts of what-ifs. Fear and guilt was ruling my life. Snakes was just another thing to be afraid of, I thought. But one night something happened that caused me stop having nightmares about snakes.  I saw a ‘spirit’ of a snake. That’s the only way I could describe it.  I was just going through another restless night. I was lying on my side, and when I turned over,  I saw black eyes staring back at me. A snake. He was about medium-sized, he was grey but sometimes even looked translucent. He was lying only a few inches away from me.  I wasn’t dreaming. I could distinguish between reality and a nightmare,and this wasn’t a dream. But I wasn’t fully awake either. I was in a state of consciousness between sleep and awake. This snake just stared at me, and for a second I felt that pang of fear crawl up in me and I realized I couldn’t move, nor yell for my parents. The fear intensified. But then the moment passed and I realized how calm this snake is. It was so still. We stare at each other for awhile, it could have been a minute, it could have been an hour. I don’t know how long it was, but by the time he disappeared and I gained full control of my body, I wasn’t afraid of snakes anymore.  Of course, I woke up my parents and told them all about the snake. They looked for it, and looked for it but couldn’t find it. They told me ‘It must have been a dream.” But I know what I saw.  Now usually, you’d think that this experience would only cause my fear of snakes to increase, but nope. I actually love snakes now. 🙂 Years fast forward, and now I see that this experience and the dreams was a significant symbol for me. Snakes represent transformation. Renewal, regeneration, rebirth. It even represents healing! After that period of my life ended, a new beginning began and I started working my way out of living life through Fear. Now I try my best to live life through Love. Perfect Love casts out all fear, right?

I told you this story because I believe that by facing our fears head-on, by truly facing ourselves for what we are, and questioning all of the things we allowed ourselves to believe…by actually make the choice to kill or get rid of our old selves that don’t serve us in a positive way, only then will we have truly achieved transformation. Transcendence beyond the Ego. 

We are what we do. When we make the choice to stop doing what our old selves used to do, and begin to do things closer to our true selves,  we begin to grow into a different person.

As a new person, whatever that was keeping us stuck (or oppressed) no longer does anymore. Now, we are free to be our truest self.

Death is a beautiful thing.

Much Love & Light, As Always

~Tiffany 

All images not noted with my name, are courtesy of Pexels, they are not owned or sold, and are shared freely. 

Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl, © 2016. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this written material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Tiffany Goldman and The Mystic Owl with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.