If you want more love in your life, you have to become Love.
You achieve this by developing self-love. What would you make you love yourself more? If you looked more attractive? If you were rich? If you were taller, shorter? Stronger, smarter, popular?
People often get stuck in a cycle of always wanting something more. One person wishes they had straighter hair, another wished they had waves or curls. One wants to be taller, another wants to be shorter. Everybody wants something that they don’t have.
What is it that really makes a person lovable? Their heart, their soul, and their mind. Those things mean far more than most people will ever know. Those things are the true essence of beauty. The beauty of the heart and soul is the only kind that lasts forever.
What are ways to show you love yourself? Here are four ways you can start cultivating self-love:
- Write a list of ten things you love about yourself. Ten things. It can be as simple as the color of your eyes to something deeper such as your compassionate, caring heart. The goal is to train yourself to find the positives or things that are lovely about yourself. And when I say ‘find’ I’m not saying it’s something that is hard. Your perception is what makes it seem like a hard task, but really isn’t. The stars shine whether anyone acknowledges it or not. The same goes for the things that make you special. I’m sure you can find lots of things that are good about yourself, about others, about things.
- Replace all the negative words you (or others) use to describe or associate with you, with positive ones. Stop criticizing yourself for your flaws, imperfections, and shortcomings. Instead, praise and cherish your good traits and attributes. You have the choice of doing either one, to criticize or to cherish. To sink into deeper depression and self-hate, or deeper appreciation and self-love. How can anyone expect you to love them when you don’t even have that love for yourself?
- Take better care of your health. Good mothers-to-be try to make sure they eat right and healthy for their babies because they care about the health of their new child. We should all take that same approach, that same caring and aim it towards ourselves. You deserve to be happy and healthy, you deserve to enjoy a healthier lifestyle that shows you value your own self-worth.
- Give yourself the gift of Acceptance. Accept where you are right here in this moment. Take gratitude in all that you’ve been through and overcome, and all that you are. Realize how it’s a miracle you exist and that this journey is one to be enjoyed. Be patient with yourself.
Friendship and true love starts at home, and it starts with you. Once you feel content with your own friendship and unconditional love, you will begin to realize you’ve already found a golden friendship and true love. They say that the best relationship you can have is with yourself. Next to that is your relationship with the people in your inner circle. That same unconditional love you’ve nurtured towards yourself is now available for others.
Much Love & Light, As Always
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